Cache resolved project references and watch wild card directories from them to update them (#42929)

* Test for not watchiong referenced projects fileNames and invalidating it

* Add watching wild card directories and caching parsed command line for projects so that its shared

* Handle config file watching and commandline cache together

* Watch extended files for commndline cache instead of project

* Use extended config cache now that we are watching extended config files

* Structure for getParsedCommandLine from the LS

* Adding some more skeleton with todos

* getParsedCommandLine on WatchCompilerHost

* Tests for Watch, LS scenarios

* Handle getParsedCommandLine so we are looking at all things for referenced

* Cleanup and commenting

* Test for transitive references with tsc-watch

* Cache parsed command line even if host implements getParsedCommandLine

* Cleanup

* Cleanup

* Some tests to verify exclude from referenced project doesnt trigger the update

* Baseline when program is same

* Test for incremental scenario

* Tests for output from referenced project

* Comments

src/compiler/commandLineParser.ts

@@ -1564,7 +1564,7 @@ namespace ts {
      */
     export function getParsedCommandLineOfConfigFile(
         configFileName: string,
-        optionsToExtend: CompilerOptions,
+        optionsToExtend: CompilerOptions | undefined,
         host: ParseConfigFileHost,
         extendedConfigCache?: Map<ExtendedConfigCacheEntry>,
         watchOptionsToExtend?: WatchOptions,